What hypocritical dark tetrad parents destroy for their children with their double standards

 Hello my friends. I've attempted in previous articles, to show what dark tetrad (narcissistic,  entitled, remorseless, exploitative, cruel) parents destroy for their children. But I don't think I've fully addressed the spectrum, the entirety of the problem. So, the title of this post:  What hypocritical dark tetrad parents destroy for their children with their double standards. It would be easier to answer what they don't destroy, because that is one simple word:  nothing. 

There is no thing that they do not ruin for us, positive or negative. And you might say, if they spoil bad things isn't that the same as doing a good thing? No. Because with their duplicitousness, they destroy our understanding bad things by making them appear good and they do bad (evil, hurtful, unhealthy, unsafe, manipulative) things and presenting them to us as good (healthy, safe, appropriate) things. They pervert and tangle up everything up to divert all to their own lustful ends. Everything in the child's life and very self is pressed into the dark tetrad's service. 

And you might wonder at my use of the word lustful. I use it intentionally. Their desires go beyond normal selfishness which we all to some extent have to follow. We all have to be somewhat self-centered to get our own needs met. Common sense says we have to focus on ourselves. It is self-destructive to focus entirely on meeting other people's needs to the exclusion of ourselves. And yet that is exactly what the dark tetrad parents expect of their children. Especially the scapegoat. 

And that is exactly where the dark tetrad parts company from normal self-care. And it is what differentiates normal needs and wants from lusts. The dark tetrad doesn't just want her needs and wants met. She wants them met at someone's else's expense. Someone has to hurt before she is happy. That's the sadistic nature of the dark tetrads. And she doesn't just want, she craves. And what she wants is wrong too: she wants God-like power over other people, demonic control of them. 

She uses cult leader mind control (brainwashing) and gaslighting (denying of any other reality than her carefully crafted mirage). She lies, deceives, scams, cheats, distorts and endlessly rewrites narratives. So adults may be able to see her for what she is, although having said that you'd be surprised at how many people the dark tetrad is able to con. But his child has no defense. She is just absorbed and enmeshed into the colossal ego ocean that is the dark tetrad's greed-lust. 

So for the child, right is wrong for her and wrong is right for the dark tetrad. Good is bad for the child and bad is good for the dark tetrad parents. Unsafe is safe, unhealthy is healthy, righteousness is wicked, self-care is selfish. Dangerous people are presented to the child as caregivers who don't take care but expect care (service, etc.) The  child is expected to parent the child and anyone else they shove at her.  Expressing normal feelings is being too sensitive and is punishable by Draconian law. 

The dark tetrad is cruel and insensitive yet very oversensitive. She is a fuming angry yet punishes the child for being righteously angry over injustice. The dark tetrad hits the child and then lies and says the child hit her. She betrays child and still expect dogged loyalty. The dark tetrad abandons the child and then forces her into enslavement when it suits.  You get the idea. Everything is upended and flipped on its ass to accommodate the narcissist's arrogance.